The Culture Reframed Parents Program is a complete, best-practice toolkit, which will help you raise porn-resilient kids.
Culture Reframed’s Program for Parents of Tweens and Program for Parents of Teens guide parents through topics that provide skills to build young people’s resilience and resistance to hypersexualized media and the impacts of pornography. Complete with scripts that guide you through conversations and recommended resources to support your child.
You will learn:
- The harmful effects of hypersexualized media and hardcore porn, which is mainstream, free, and easily accessible
- How to teach healthy sexuality and strengthen resilience to hypersexualized media and porn
- How unrestricted use of pornography affects the brain and can lead to habituation and addiction
- How to support and guide your child each step of the way
Other links to check out from Culture Reframed include:
- Social Media & Mobile Phone Contract – an essential resource aimed at equipping you with the knowledge and skills to have conversations that ensure you stay connected to your young person’s online world.
- COMPOSE Yourself! – a model which helps parents respond effectively when they discover their young person has viewed pornography.
Responding in Australia
The Office of the eSafety Commissioner is an important resource to assist with helping all Australians have safe, positive experiences online.
- Report cyberbullying
If you are under 18 you can make a complaint about cyberbullying or online bullying. A child’s parent, legal guardian, or someone authorised by the child is also able to submit a cyberbullying complaint.
- Report image-based abuse
If an intimate image has been shared, or someone is threatening to share it, without your consent, you can make a report no matter what your age.
- Report offensive and illegal content
The Cyber Report team investigates complaints about offensive and illegal online content, including online child sexual abuse material.
- Online pornography: a guide for parents and carers
This information covers:- How do kids find pornography online?- How can I protect my child?- What can I do if my child has found pornography online?
eChildhood has a mission to connect the community to protect, support and equip children, and young people, to be free from pornography harms, through the promotion of Digital Child Protection Buffers and mobilising a Public Health Response.
- A world where kids can grow up without being harmed by accessing graphic, violent online pornography
- Prevention of children’s access to pornography through digital child protection buffers
- Updated legislation and education to address pornography harms as a public health crisis
Filters and Apps to Help with Blocking Porn
Below we have provided suggestions for filters and apps. These independent platforms are separate from Porn Resilient Kids and provided for informational purposes only. We recommend that users of our site investigate the right platform(s) for you and your family.
We are HUGE advocates for education and conversations. Filters by themselves are not enough – it’s not a matter of if your child sees porn, but when.
For children who have been harmed by pornography and require therapeutic services, families may find assistance through the support of school wellbeing teams or community counsellors/psychologists. In Australia, Kids Helpline is a valuable resource. For families with older children who may be looking for online recovery support, visit the Youth Wellbeing Project page on filters, apps and recovery resources.
KEEP YOUR CHILDREN SAFE IN CYBERSPACE
Kidlogger Parental Control is an effective free app for monitoring any device based on Windows, Android, Mac. Keep your children safe and get to know with whom he or she communicates in Internet, how long do the play computer games and how much time spend in webspace. Using KidLogger will help you block apps; schedule access to games; track phone coordinates, read SMS and many more.
Children’s Books to Help with Porn Conversations
Christian Children’s Books to help with porn conversations
A book to help with early teen porn conversations
Developed by Act for Kids therapists, 12 years and older is a guideline age for the use of this particular resource.
Before sharing this booklet with others, consider:
- Individual emotional maturity
- Developmental stage
- Context and environment
How to use the booklet:
- Do not give the booklet to a young person in isolation. It is designed to start conversations and debunk myths about the sex young people see online.
- Use the conversation prompts at the back of the booklet to inform your discussions.
- Be open, honest and nonjudgmental. Remember, this conversation will probably be hard for them too.
- Encourage them to ask questions. Answer these as honestly as you can.
- Use the correct terminology when talking about sex and private body parts.
- Have multiple short chats with your young person. This is much more effective than an exhausting drawn-out dialogue.
- Allow time for them to think about the content and reflect. We believe the ‘less is more’ technique reduces some of the embarrassment for the young person, which means ongoing conversations may be more likely to occur.
Children’s Books for Body Image & Body Safety
- Gary just didn’t know the rules
- Matilda Learns a Valuable Lesson
- Hayden-Reece learns a valuable lesson that Private means ‘Just for You’
- Parents’ Guide to Child Protection Education
- Parents’ and Carers’ Guide to Child Protection Education
- Plus more
A range of protective behaviours children’s books by Jayneen Sanders at Educate2Empower Publishing:
- Some Secrets Should Never be Kept
- No means No!
- My body! What I say goes!
- No Difference Between Us
- Let’s Talk About Body Boundaries, Consent and Respect
- Body Safety Education – a step by step guide for parents and carers
- Plus more
Janeen Sanders books are also available on Amazon
Books and Online Training to Support Parents
Closing Pandora’s Box is a parent’s guide for helping children and teens who have been exposed to, or are actively using pornography. Filled with worksheets and easily understood concepts, this book provides a framework for parents and kids to collaborate and work together in mastering the unbelievably strong desire to view porn.
Closing Pandora’s Box provides parents, children and teens the information and skills they need to fight what has become a very real and personal war. This book was written by Dr.Gail Poyner, a psychologist, who actually treats children and teens who are in the midst of disturbing pornography use.
Educate and Empower Kids provides resources to parents and educators to encourage deep connection with their kids through media education, meaningful family communication and intentional parenting. They do this by teaching digital citizenship, media literacy, and healthy sexuality education—including education about the dangers of online pornography.
Children’s Videos to Help with Porn Conversations
Videos for Parents and Caregivers to Help with Porn Conversations
Our Kids Online – Porn, Predators & How to Keep Them Safe
Follow the journey of two filmmaker parents, who accidentally stumbled on the biggest un-had conversation of our time, while researching the pros and cons of handheld devices for their children. A must-see documentary for every parent on how to protect our kids from online predators and the fallout from exposure to today’s genres of hardcore, violent, degrading porn. Featuring some of the world’s leading experts in this field. Read our review here.
Additional educational videos about pornography can be found at Youth Wellbeing Project.
Get Informed About Porn
Looking for places to educate yourself about the extensive harms of pornography? The below sites provide a good starting point.
Youth Wellbeing Project ~ educating for tricky conversations.
In addition to Porn Resilient Kids, Youth Wellbeing Project provides school curriculum, school and community presentations, and extensive resources to educate about pornography harms.
- Youth Wellbeing Project Essential Resources
- Filters, apps and recovery resources
- IQ PROGRAMS
- Research that underpins our presentations and programs
- Critical Porn Analysis ~ moving beyond ‘porn literacy’ to critique the impacts of pornography on individuals, relationships, families, communities & nations
- Closed FB Group for Educators: educating for tricky conversations
- Closed FB Group Oath4Parents: chatting about digital safety
Culture Reframed is the first organization to recognize and address hypersexualized media and pornography as “the public health crisis of the digital age.” Founded by internationally renowned scholar and activist Dr. Gail Dines, Culture Reframed is comprised by a multidisciplinary team of experts and scholars helping to build the public’s capacity to deal with mainstream hardcore online pornography.
The Light Project is a charitable trust founded in 2017 by a small team of sexual and public health experts. The project is a pilot project that aims to help youth, their whānau, schools and wider communities to positively navigate the new porn landscape in Aotearoa (New Zealand).
Curious about the latest research on internet porn’s effects? Wondering about sexual dysfunction? Escalation to extreme material? Low desire for partnered sex? Social anxiety, cognitive problems, lack of motivation? Your Brain on Porn may have the information you’re looking for.
Fight the New Drug – a non-religious and non-legislative organization that exists to provide individuals the opportunity to make an informed decision regarding pornography by raising awareness on its harmful effects using only science, facts, and personal accounts.